You asked for it, so here it is. Books, toys, lube...the stuff that I love most.
Books
*Each title is linked to Amazon with my affiliate code.
BDSM/Tantra
Barbara Carrellas "Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century"
Tantra that is inclusive of all bodies, genders, & relationship dynamics. Finally.
Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy "Radical Ecstasy"
Tristan Taormino "The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge"
Emotional Intelligence
Danielle LaPorte "The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul"
Pema Chodron "Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change"
Erotica
Anne Rice "Sleeping Beauty Trilogy"
Trashy, fun, and deeply kinky.
Emily Foster "How Not to Fall"
A sex educator wrote this as a direct response to 50 Shades. It's how 50 Shades with consent and emotional intelligence. Delicious.
For Kids
Cory Silverberg "Sex is a Funny Word"
The best book for 8-11 year olds in the world. Pretty profound for adults, too.
Non-monogamy
Kathy Labriola "The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships"
Meg-John Barker "Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships"
Tristan Taormino "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships"
Sex/Sexuality
Barbara Carrellas "Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide"
Emily Nagoski "Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life"
My MOST recommended book, by a landslide.
Sheri Winston "Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure"
This book isn't super inclusive and it's pretty heteronormative. But...if you have a vulva or love someone who does, it has some amazing information in it.
Toys & Lube
Starred (*) items are products that I sell. If you're in the U.S. or Canada and want to buy from me, just shoot me a message with the products you'd like to know more about and I can hook you up!
Lubricant
Favorite silicone lube: uberlube
*Favorite water-based gel lube: Sliquid Sassy
Dildo & Vibrators
Instead of listing individual toys, this is a list of ethical, body-safe manufacturers I support.
Crave
*JimmyJane
*Fun Factory
Funkit Toys
*Magic Wand, rechargeable
Tantus
*We-Vibe
Anal/Prostate
*Aneros Helix
*Crystal Delights Glass Butt Plugs and Tails
*Fun Factory Bootie Plug
*Nexus G-Play Plug
*njoy products - plugs, Pure Wand, Fun Wand, etc
Miscellaneous Fun
*Spareparts Harnesses - Joque & Deuce, specifically
*Tantus Supersoft Cock Ring