Sex Gets Real HIQI: Episode 59

Dawn’s mind gets blown in the best possible way.

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The Queer Porn Film Festival was beyond rad. Films with trans women, trans men, fat bodies, all different color bodies, doing all sorts of yummy, curious, and funny things.

Links to several of the films and performers are below in the show notes. Be sure to check out the films and clips and report back what you think.

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Episode breakdown

  • 0:01 – In the DC area? Check out Dawn’s new meetup: Relationship Communication Bootcamp. The first event is June 11th and will be on asking for what you want in the bedroom. Register now.
  • 0:25 – Dylan is having a bad day.
  • 1:36 – Fucking ale bullshit. Dylan wants good beer.
  • 2:02 – Dawn went to the Queer Porn Film Festival in Brooklyn.
  • 2:24 – Jiz Lee is so hot Dawn freaked out and ran away. Jiz is also really sweet and knowledgable about the porn industry.
  • 3:19 – Fan girl moment means Dawn didn’t get to have a real conversation with Jiz. More like a hit-and-run.
  • 3:56 – Watching porn is exhausting, people. Really. It’s work.
  • 4:33 – Some of the festival was to shine a spotlight on porn that is normally excluded or overlooked by the Feminist Porn Awards – in other words, trans folks.
  • 4:51 – Courtney Trouble’s production company is one of the only ones to really embrace trans women.
  • 6:55 – One of the films, Dyke March, was of two lesbians getting it on at the Pride parade. It wasn’t until late in the film that Dawn realized one of the women was a trans woman – Chelsea Poe. It was awesome. You can buy the clip on TransGrrrls.
  • 8:45 – Trans men being all badass and bossy and muscular in Pigfucker.
  • 10:30 – Dawn loves sensual films, and the two most sensual ones from the festival were films starring gay guys.
  • 10:50 – If you want to check out Kangourou, you can see it here.
  • 11:59 – I Want Your Love is sweet and sexy. The 14-minute short is here, for your viewing pleasure.
  • 13:35 – So many different kinds of porn. Most didn’t turn Dawn on, but all were interesting and honest in their perspectives.
  • 14:18 – Jiz was in a film alled Graphic Depictions by Stoya that was sensual and artistic.
  • 14:36 – Many of the films had safer sex items being used like dental dams, gloves, condoms, and more.
  • 15:00 – One of the most awesome parts of the festival was seeing trans women engaging in sex on their terms, doing it the way they wanted to experience it, and that’s not something you’ll find in mainstream.
  • 15:18 – If you want to find ethical and inclusive porn, check out CrashPad,, Courtney Trouble, and CineSinclaire.
  • 15:42 – Tobi Hill-Meyer’s film Money Shot Blues is all about the come shots in She-Male porn and how to fake it.
  • 16:41 – Everyone should make DIY Porn, even if no one ever sees it. Use it to empower you and tell your sexual story, make what turns you on. It’s on Dawn’s To Do list.
  • 17:08 – Did you know it’s technically illegal to make porn in all but two states in the U.S.?
  • 19:32 – Dawn is shocked to learn the truth about casting for intimate porn films.
  • 20:46 – Courtney Trouble’s warning to the audience about commenting on the actors was AMAZING.
  • 23:47 – “I still have Courtney’s come in my hair!”
  • 24:46 – If you want porn that features different types of people or different themes, then you need to start paying for it. The porn industry goes after consumer interest – so if you start paying for a certain kind of porn, mainstream companies will start moving in that direction which increases access and more free stuff in that area becomes available.
  • 25:27 – James Darling had a hot video of him masturbating and fucking himself. His wine rack of dildos left the audience in stitches. A free clip is here if you scroll down to the episode titled James.

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Sex Gets Real is talking about the Queer Porn Film Festival. Dawn attended a few weeks ago in Brooklyn and saw all kinds of porn - trans women, trans men, gay guys getting all sensual and sexy, cis women, and so much more.

  • Dawn
  • May 17, 2015