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This week it’s you and me and all your emails.
But before I answer your questions, let’s talk about the Seattle Erotic Film Festival and Dan Savage’s HUMP! Festival, both of which I attended this week.
The Seattle Erotic Film Festival had a lot of films that really weren’t my cup of tea. Which is OK, but it did tell me a lot about what I enjoy watching and what I don’t.
I mentioned “Cake” by Anne Hu, and you can see the trailer here. It was truly delightful. Boner Loaner and How to Date a Couple were also favorites. Oh, and two films with scat play! Color me surprised.
HUMP had a lot more that I enjoyed and laughed over, but I was still bummed that the best sex films were both awarded to thin, young, cis, hetero-presenting couples.
Jnix wrote in wanting to know what the definition of “cis” is. Great question.
Shane not only showers me with love but needs some help with a new girlfriend who is scared of spanking and flogging. What can Shane do? I share my first experience with flogging and how I didn’t really enjoy it. But now flogging and spanking are huge parts of the sensation and kink I enjoy.
Marisa is worried that her new love of being restrained might become a problem is she does it too much. Will it stay exciting if she does it a lot or should she try and hold back so it continues to feel special? My thoughts include adopting an attitude of curiosity and wonder – whether we’re talking about monogamy, restraints, or anything else in our life.
I also touch on why newness doesn’t always have to be the goal, despite what we’re constantly sold in this world.
Hopelessly Devoted to Boot is desperately in need of help because his boot fetish is ruining his marriage of 20 years. He needs boots, and while his wife used to accommodate his fetish by wearing boots, more recently she’s been refusing to wear the boots he needs for sexual arousal and pleasure. Now their sex is virtually gone. What can he do?
All the thoughts on fetishes, the humanity of our partners, and navigating tough spots in relationships.
Sad Gay Millennial wrote a long, eloquent letter to me about his loneliness, his violations with gay male culture, and his fear of bottoming even though he loves it. I adore that he acknowledges a lack of consent culture and widespread patriarchy which is present in gay male culture. In addition to therapy & professional sexual help, hear my thoughts on how to navigate love, dating, and trauma when you feel alone and totally empty.
Resources mentioned in this episode
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About Dawn Serra
I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too.
When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire.
But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband.
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