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This week it’s just you and me, working our way through some rad listener questions.
Dave wrote in with one of the best complimentary emails I’ve ever received AND threw a few bucks my way on Patreon.
Lala just found out she has HPV. She’s brand new to dating after divorce and spending many years focusing on her kids, and she wants to know – is her sex life over? Can she find romance and love and great sex if she has HPV? I have so many thoughts, including checking out Ella Dawson and Ashley Manta as rockin’ folks to follow who have amazing sex lives while navigating the world with an STI.
Lovely J listens to the show with her honey. They can’t remember the name of an author I recommended a while back (it was most likely Barbara Carrellas). Also, Lovely J is an inexperienced Dominant and her partner really wants her to dominate them. She’s read some books, but how can she get some hands-on practice at being a dominant? My number 1 recommendation is Midori’s Forte Femme weekend intensive.
It IS possible to be a very effective, very sexy Dominant without it looking like the standard trope of a Domme you see on TV or at kink events.
Jude is a white, middle-class woman who is new to learning about sex work. How can she learn more about why people choose sex work and what it’s all about?
It’s critical to turn to sex workers themselves for their stories, for the lived nuance. All my book recommendations to Jude are below in the resources area.
Frank wrote in needing help finding a way to get his wife to give him a blowjob. The advice will be disappointing, but it’s the best I can offer when it comes to wanting something sexually from another human being. You have to be willing to talk about it – openly and without expectation or pressure.
Kacey wants to know how common it is for women to have hair on their faces, cleavage and chest. Hirsutism can be caused by loads of things, and it’s relatively common. Plus, there are so many women who are unabashedly embracing their rad beards and body hair and still having amazing sex lives and finding love. The Go Ask Alice article I mention in the episode is linked down below.
Finally, K is having an issue with a butt plug. They can have anal sex just fine, but when you use an anal plug, it hurts on the out motion. What can they do? I have some thoughts. Yay butt stuff.
Resources discussed in this episode
TheWhoresOfYore.com by Kate Lister
About Dawn Serra
Sex is a social skill. I speak it. I write it. I teach it. I help you learn how to develop it.
I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too.
When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire.
But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband.
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