Sex Gets Real 139: Bush trends, munches, and myLAB Box

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Did you hear the announcement about listener confessions being part of the show? Scroll to the bottom of this page to check out details, examples, suggestions, and how to get them to me. It’s time to make you part of the show!

I am so so so excited about hearing your voices and stories.

Anyway, back to this week’s episode. I have a ton of listener emails in the queue, so I was happy to get to a few this week on munches and online handles, pubic hair trends, and finding a sex position therapist.

Plus, if your wife says she can get a bunch of sex toys for super cheap, does that mean they’re bad? I weigh in on how to find affordable sex toys that are body safe.

Then, I chat with Lora Ivanova from myLAB Box, an at-home STI testing service for folks in the United States. She has soooooo much information on STIs, tests that doctors often miss, and ways to reduce stigma around something over 30% of us experience in our lives.

You can get 20% off STD and HIV test through myLAB Box until December 31, 2016 using code GIVETHANKS16.

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In this episode, you’ll hear me chat about:

  • What name you should use when you go to a BDSM munch – your online handle or your real first name? This listener question made me giggle because I did NOT think about having to say my screen name out loud to people and ended up super embarrassed at my first munch.
  • Advice I gave on the blog about a wife who hates her husband’s cum and his desire to enjoy oral sex with her. Check it out here.
  • A listener email asking if a bulk sex toys for cheap might be dangerous. I talk about feminist sex toy shops and JoEllen Notte’s amazing resource list, in addition to the podcast’s new resource list.
  • Sex positive and kink positive mental health professionals and where to find them. A listener who is an abuse survivor would like help in working through his trauma, but he doesn’t want to work with someone who is sex negative. You can find amazing folks at by Tristan Taormino and Kink Aware Professionals Directory on NCSF.
  • The importance of trying on different therapists/counselors until you find one that is a good fit for you. It can take several tries to find someone who’s approach and disposition feel like you can go deep and feel challenged in a helpful way.
  • Rachel wrote in asking if bush (or pubic hair) is back in. Last she heard, it was all about being bald and shaved. So, I weigh in on pubic hair trends. Yay body autonomy and doing whatever the fuck you want with your damn hair.
  • Lora Ivanova’s quest to make at-home STI testing accessible to folks throughout the U.S. (since universal healthcare still isn’t a thing in this country). myLAB Box is a tad pricey, but what it offers is an incredible service that can make knowing your STI status easier and more private than ever.
  • Rates of STIs in the U.S. and why it’s so important to reduce stigma and fear around these conversations and knowing your status. If testing is expensive, awkward, difficult to do, and potentially shame-filled, people just aren’t going to do it – which means STIs spread to folks who never even had the chance to opt-in or opt-out of that risk.
  • Doctors can stigmatize STI tests and many have zero comprehensive sex ed as part of their medical training. Being able to test at home and get prescriptions and support sounds amazing.
  • Different ways STIs are spread, which many people don’t know. We talk herpes, hepatitis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV, and more.

About myLAB Box

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Are you ready to be part of the show with your juicy, awkward, fun, sad confessions? Now you can be!

January’s theme is FIRSTS, so if you have a story to share about a first in your sexual or romantic history that was meaningful, transformative, disappointing, surprising, or something that you hope to experience soon, I want to hear from you.

Here are the guidelines:

  • Subscribe to the Sex Gets Real newsletter (there’s a box in the upper right) because that’s where I’ll be announcing future themes.
  • Record your story using your phone, your computer, a recorder, or whatever you have at your disposal. It should be no longer than 7 minutes.
  • Don’t want your voice heard? Type up your story, email it in, and I’ll read it for you.
  • Email your MP3 file/story (make it as high quality as you can – both in sound and content) to info(at)
  • Submission does not guarantee your story will make it on the show, but every submission will be reviewed and considered.
  • Deadline for January’s confessions is January 20, 2017.

What should your story be about?

  • I want stories that are real – I want to hear the awkward, the disappointing, the surprising, the reality versus the expectation, how the experience changed you or how it didn’t even though you wanted it to. This isn’t about being as explicit as possible, and it’s not about writing erotica. I want your real, true, humanity-filled story including your feelings, thoughts, and the impact it had on you.
  • Include a beginning, middle, and end so we have a complete picture of this event you’re sharing.
  • It MUST include the theme of the month, though it doesn’t have to be terribly literal. For instance, a “first” may be the first time you felt pleasure or the first time you realized your sexuality was changing or the first time you gave yourself permission to talk to a partner about your past.

Need examples of great personal storytelling?

Listen to The Moth, This American Life, The Heart, or check out the confessions at Erika Lust’s XConfessions.

I can’t wait to hear from you!

  • Dawn
  • December 11, 2016