Each week, I answer one of your burning questions on the blog. This week Amateur Porn Lover asks:
So sad to hear that Dylan left. Can’t wait to see her return on occasion.
My question…………my wife and I don’t love porn. But we do love to watch amateur sex footage. Sadly, I don’t have a great resource for amateur video. Can you make any suggestions?
We do like some from Tumbler but it’s not easy to find what we are looking for.
Huge fan in Massachusetts.
I’m very excited to answer this question. So excited, that not only did I put all of my suggestions down below, but I polled Twitter and got some responses.
First up, my recommendations
Into lesbian or dyke videos? Check out Good Dyke Porn. It’s a lesbian porn site that has built an impressive array of amateur scenes. The Feminist Porn Awards even recommend them.
Another option is MakeLoveNotPorn.tv by Cindy Gallop.
Here’s what their website has to say about their content, which is user uploaded:
MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is of the people, by the people, and for the people who believe that the sex we have in our everyday life is the hottest sex there is.
We are not porn – porn is performance (often an exceedingly delicious performance, but a performance nonetheless).
We are not ‘amateur’ – a label that implies that the only people doing it right are the professionals and the rest of us are bumbling idiots. (Honey, please.)
We are #realworldpeople, #realworldsex, #realworldfeelings, #realworldrelationships, #realworldbodies, #realworldhotness, #realworldeverything.
If you’re into blow jobs, then TheArtOfBlowJob.com is a site that is all about erotic, artistic videos of blow jobs. Some of the performers are professionals, while others are amateur couples trying something new and sharing it with the world.
Similar to The Art of Blow Job is BrightDesire.com, which showcases real sex. From the website’s creator, “There’s also scenes featuring real-life couples having sex. These scenes are completely unlike most porn scenes and feature plenty of passion, giggles and really good fucking. I used some of these scenes in my Feminist Porn Award nominated film ‘Connections’.”
AbbyWinters might be worth a look. It features women with natural breasts, pubic hair, etc, and while the site says it’s amateurs, it does have a polished, professional look to it.
The final recommendation that I have is Clips4Sale.com <– this links to the amateur search results. Lance Hart sells his clips here, and there is an impressive amateur section. The nice thing about Clips4Sale is the prices tend to be really reasonable and instead of paying for a membership, you get to pick and choose the exact content you’re interested in.
The wonderful fetish porn creator and star, Kelsey Obsession offered some suggestions, as well.
On any amateur clip site (manyvids, iwantclips, clips4sale) you’ll find individual sellers w/this perspective… https://t.co/IbiABerMtA
— KelseyObsession (@KelseyObsession) June 9, 2016
Others that come to mind: @lily_cade @TheArtofBlowjob @ssshforwomen @AnnaCherryOnTop @HSugarCookie @cherrytorn https://t.co/IbiABerMtA
— KelseyObsession (@KelseyObsession) June 9, 2016
But wait…none of this is free
Glad you noticed! You’ve heard me say it on the show, and now I get a chance to hop up on my soap box in written form, too.
You wouldn’t walk into a grocery store and think it’s OK to take whatever you want without paying, just because it’s there.
Similarly, you wouldn’t go to the farmer’s market, grab as many apples as you wanted, and eat them without paying the farmer.
But, but…it’s amateur. If it’s amateur and a tube site, it’s not doing anyone any harm, right?
Wrong. Many of the amateur videos on the tube sites were uploaded without consent. Certainly very few (if any) of the participants are getting paid or compensated for their content.
Sure, we’ve all been trained that porn is free because it’s porn (somehow we see porn as a human right, something that we’re owed, rather than a valid profession and industry, which is fucked up when you consider the implications, no?).
Thankfully, all of us on the Sex Gets Real site (including you, dear reader) are cool enough and savvy enough to know change starts with us.
There are plenty of ethical options for all kinds of porn, including amateur stuff, where the participants gave their consent in being filmed and approved their videos to be shared.
Want something a little more raw? Several of the creators on the clips sites and some of the sites listed above take requests. Imagine the deliciousness of requesting custom footage that’s tailored just to you and your wife’s tastes? Yum.
Thanks so much for writing in and for listening.
What do you think? Do you have any ethical options for amateur porn? Perhaps even stories about uploading your own? Comment below with your thoughts and help Amateur Porn Lover out.
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